Jealousy is a feeling that while you might be flattered to have incited, will be most annoying when incited upon on you.
People get jealous all the time. You could say that it is a natural and everyday occurrence, particularly in relationships. This is a feeling that is more inflicted upon or caused by a person, rather than a material thing. The form of this feeling when attributed to material things is called envy. In relationships, it is said that an amount of this feeling of possessiveness towards a partner is healthy and might even factor in making the relationship stronger.
But there is also the other, uglier side of this feeling: the one that persists, and makes you feel constantly anxious, insecure and in fear of losing your partner or your partners love. If you feel this way, then you are in danger of letting it get the best of you.
Reasonable jealousy is understandable, and even natural. After all, if you do not feel it when your partner is being seemingly intimate to someone other than you whom you do not know, then you either does not love your partner or you are unfeeling. Either way, the relationship is still not healthy.
But if you let it dominate the everyday interaction that your partner may have with people, especially those of the opposite sex, then you need to sit down and think about why this may be. Because if you do not find a way around it or find the cause for it, you can be sure that the relationship is heading for a very tough ride with a destination that you do not even want to contemplate.
This may receive skepticism for some people, but for many this holds true: that when it is you who is causing this green feeling, it can be flattering. But when it is you who is feeling it, it is just downright annoying and frustrating. Of course, the former may only apply when you invoke it in someone you care about and love, and when this feeling is more of a playful banter between the two of you; something you know helps foster a stronger bond and love.
The latter, on the other hand, may even be oversimplified because sometimes, annoying and frustrating may be a vast understatement. Sometimes, this feeling can even cause people to physically or visibly abuse their partners. Maybe that is why we have the term jealous rage.
Thus, if you are someone who is prone to this, you need to reflect on yourself every once in a while. Are you justified in what you are feeling? Do you think it is reasonable for you to feel it so constantly? Do you think that one day you might blow over and do something you might regret? If the answer is yes to all the questions, then you need to start working on putting a rein on this green feeling.
So how do you handle it? There can be neither concrete nor flawless formula towards it, for it is something that has more to do with your determination to not let it get in the way of the relationship than any other. Sometimes, this jealousy may even be justified and reasonable. So the best thing that you can do is to talk things out with your partner and figure out what compromise you both can reach to lessen this problem.
Sometimes, there is a reason for it, and sometimes it is just a product of an overactive imagination. But heed this: Never let jealousy get the best of you.
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